Teddi Mellencamp wonders if Edwin Arroyave’s divorce was ‘a mistake’

The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills alum Teddi Mellencamp was not always firm in her decision to divorce Edwin Arroyave.

“We went to this whole couples therapy thing and it announced that I was an introvert, and it was shocking information to everyone, even though I’ve said this my whole life,” Mellencamp, 43, said during the Thursday, Jan. 16, meeting. episode of her “Diamonds in the Rough” podcast. “I’m an introvert by nature, so I enjoy my alone time [and] I need to recharge.”

Although she found comfort in the quiet moments, she wasn’t ready for the increased loneliness that comes with divorce. (Mellencamp separated from Arroyave, 47, in the fall of 2024 and filed for divorce in November.)

“There are moments that I feel now where I feel really lonely and I don’t know if those feelings of loneliness mean that I made a mistake or if this is just something I have to get used to and this is the new change in my life ,” Mellencamp wondered, trying to hold back tears. “Oh my god, I’m so embarrassed that I’m getting emotional, but it’s such a confusing part of all of this.”

She continued, “Should you persevere or should you give? [time]?”

Mellencamp’s podcast cohost, Erika Jayne – whose own personal life made headlines in 2020 following her divorce from the now-disbarred lawyer Thomas Girardi – agreed to share her support.

“She’s in the middle of it right now, and it’s very fresh and very difficult,” Jayne, 53, said on Thursday’s episode. “I feel for her because none of this is easy and to pick yourself up and even be on a podcast today and talk about it. You know, Teddi, you gotta give yourself a break. If you didn’t say you felt lonely, I’d worry that you were.’

For Mellencamp, it feels like she’s in a “constant pain” that she’s “trying to fake.” [her] way through” every day.

“I’ve talked about this in therapy, but it’s almost like I’m drawn to another chaotic situation,” Mellencamp explained. “I don’t want to give away too much about my parents or anything like that, but clearly about my father [John Mellencamp] was a rock star. He met a girl in the Rainbow Room and it was my mother and they had babies [while] he was already married. Everything was as…show.”

Teddi continued, “There have been many ups and downs in my life, and my only goal has ever been… to give my children stability. I don’t know if it’s loneliness or if I’m afraid, [but] I also don’t feel like I’m enough, all those things.

Teddi and Arroyave share daughters Slate, 12, and Dove, 4, as well as son Cruz, 10. (Arroyave is also father to daughter Isabella, 15, from a previous relationship.)