Kevin Federline’s Memoir ‘You Thought You Knew’: The Biggest Bomb
According to the 47-year-old DJ, he had no idea who the Toxic singer until they crossed paths at Hollywood nightclub Joseph’s in April 2004.
“We talked for a while and then went onto the dance floor,” he writes in his book. “Nothing too wild, just a little playful back and forth. Honestly, at the time, in my 25-year-old mind, I was just thinking about destroying that.”
After their first meeting, they went to the Beverly Hills Hotel, where they reportedly spent time together by the hot tub while their friends hung out in the pool. Moments later, Spears allegedly grabbed his arm and led him to her private bungalow.
“As soon as we entered the bungalow, Britney turned around, took off her underwear and started kissing me, tearing at my clothes with both hands,” Federline recalls. “We stumbled to the bed as I struggled to kick my pants off my ankles.”
He adds: “What happened between us that night was purely physical. It felt like we were feeding off each other’s energy, caught in this whirlwind of chemistry and connection. Very passionate, very intense.”
Federline was engaged to Shar Jackson, who was pregnant with their second child at the time, when he had an intimate first meeting with Spears.
After paparazzi sensed something was brewing between them during a beach outing, he called his pregnant fiancée and told her ‘about Britney, about the connection [they] had, and how [he] couldn’t ignore it.”
“I could hear the heartbreak in her voice, and the pain it caused. She was angry. But beneath the anger was something deeper, a sadness that I couldn’t undo,” he recalls, noting that he should have told Jackson how unhappy he was in their relationship.
Federline says in his memoir, “I let things unravel instead of facing them head-on. I told myself the distance would make things easier, but it only delayed the inevitable. By the time we spoke, it was too late. I had already let her find out the truth for herself. The photos of Britney and me on the beach helped.”
The …Baby again singer was in the middle of the European leg of her 2004 Onyx Tour when Federline caught her in bed with a dancer.
“Britney was standing between her legs, hands on her face, and they were fucking at it. Full-on making out,” Federline, who admitted that he “already felt real feelings” for Spears at the time, wrote in his memoir. “It was one of those moments that hits you so quickly that your brain can’t even process it.”
After seeing the scene, he walked out of the room to book a flight home. However, Spears “began to apologize” and told him she had no idea how serious Federline was about their romance.
According to the dancer, Spears was “overwhelmed” and admitted that it had “been a mistake.”
“It was our first fight, or whatever you want to call it. I think that was the moment where she realized that I wasn’t there for the fame or the benefits. I was just there for her,” he continues.
Federline and Spears tied the knot less than three months after they started dating.
In You thought you knewthe You’ve been served star recalled how they talked about their engagement while returning to the US after the European leg of Spears’ tour.
“There we were, in first class, drinking cocktails, talking about life, and then – bam – she casually, or maybe not so casually, proposed to me,” he writes. “I kind of laughed it off, played it cool and told her no.”
They did not bring up the subject again until she suffered a knee injury in June 2004.
Federline says, “I thought about what she had said on the plane. I kept replaying it in my head, wondering if I had made a mistake in writing it off. By the time she was well enough to think about flying again, I finally had the courage to ask her the question she had asked me weeks earlier.”
Before Federline, Spears was married to Jason Alexander and briefly linked to Colin Farrell. The Womanizer The singer also had a long-term relationship with Justin Timberlake from 1999 to 2002.
The Britney & Kevin: Chaotic star claimed that Spears never really got over the *NSYNC member.
According to Federline, his now ex-wife Timberlake called the night before their wedding to settle their “unfinished business.”
“I thought she was talking to her mother or her sister, so I went back to the room,” he recalls. ‘When she came back to the room, I saw that she had been crying. She said she was talking to Justin. She said she had to call him to close a chapter of her life before starting a new one.”
He noted that even after their marriage, Spears still “hadn’t fully moved on” and that he “could see that part of her heart still had ties to [Timberlake].”
“She may have loved me, but there was always something about Justin that she couldn’t let go of,” says Federline. “Being in love with someone and still holding on to someone else, you feel that, even if he or she doesn’t say it. You can’t compete with that.”
The patriarch recalled an incident when the Criminal Singer punched him while holding their first son, Sean Preston, during an argument over his marijuana use.
“She knew who I was. She married me, she knew. But she was on the warpath, screaming her head off. Then she punched me. Right in the face. With our son in her arms,” he says of the first time “things got physical.”
Eight weeks after their second son, Jayden James, was born in September 2006, Spears filed for divorce from Federline, citing irreconcilable differences.
The onion movie star revealed he was in Canada to promote his album Playing with fire when he heard about his then-wife’s divorce filing.
“I went to the studio and went through the usual steps with producers,” he says. “I knew what to expect when I answered the same questions on another day, until a producer ambushed me right before I went live with, ‘What do you think about Britney filing for divorce?’ My brain just froze.”
They reached an initial divorce settlement in March 2007 before finalizing the divorce in July of the same year.
Federline shared the most shocking revelations about his and Britney’s children in several parts of his memoir.
In part of his book, he claimed that the mother of two gave most of her attention to Jayden and neglected Preston.
“I have no doubt that she loved them both, but her actions made it clear who came first,” Federline wrote. “Preston carried that pain with him for years. The nightmares, the need for constant reassurance, the feeling that he wasn’t loved as much as his brother – it lingered. Even as he grew older and was able to articulate his feelings, the scars remained.”
He also claimed that Britney would take Jayden horseback riding and feed him shellfish, despite his severe allergies.
“Preston once told me she punched him in the face,” Federline adds.
Moreover, the Excess baggage participant claimed the Oops!… I did it again singer entered his home with “one breast hanging out of a torn shirt” and had several “disturbing” visits with their children.
“One night, after another disturbing visit, the boys came home and said, ‘We’re done. We’re not going back,'” he says in the book. “You felt the tension in our house disappear. They were no longer bouncing between two worlds.”
