Bette Midler and husband haven’t shared a bedroom in 40 years
Bette Midler shares the secret of her almost 40-year marriage with husband Martin von Haselberg.
“Separate bedrooms,” Midler, 78, said Entertainment tonight on Thursday, July 25, while promoting her new comedy, The fantastic four. “My husband snores.”
The Hocus Pocus star – who tied the knot in Las Vegas in December 1984 after six weeks of dating – was also excited about working with the duo’s only child, daughter Sophie von Haselbergwho also stars in the upcoming film Susan Sarandon, Sheryl Lee Ralph And Megan Mullally.
“I was more than averse [to let her go into acting]Midler said as she recalled Sophie’s childhood dreams of becoming an actress like her. “I was scared of her, and she was just a little girl. I made a terrible mistake by saying, “If you go into show business, I’ll kill you.” And she took it very much to heart. She’s brilliant. She is amazing. She is the love of my life.”
During a performance op Today with Hoda and Jenna earlier this month, Midler reflected on her whirlwind wedding to Martin, 75, and shared details about their wedding day.
“I’m very impulsive,” she said Hoda Kotb And Jenna Bush Hager. “We went to Vegas and got married by an Elvis impersonator, always a good idea.”
The Beaches actress previously reflected on what drew her to her husband when their paths first crossed in 1984.
“I knew Martin was outrageous when I first met him,” Midler said an interview with journalist Elisa Leonelli. “I liked that he wasn’t afraid to be different, that he was an outsider like me, that he wasn’t complacent, that he stood apart from the mainstream.”
In an interview with People in 2014, Midler opened up about why her and Martin’s marriage has stood the test of time, and shared some of her rules for a long-term commitment.
“I think the secret is to give each other a lot of guidance and space and not be in each other’s faces all the time,” she said, adding that “listening” and “compromise” are “difficult” but important virtues in a relation.
“It’s best to choose your battles wisely and just meditate. Stay calm. Don’t go from zero to 60 in two seconds. Just stay calm and try to breathe,” she continued. “Don’t sell each other short. Don’t diminish each other. Don’t try to prove each other wrong all the time. Don’t blame. Stop assigning blame. I think blaming is the worst thing. It’s so [easy to do]because you don’t want to bear the burden yourself. You want to blame it on someone else. But honestly, you have to learn not to do that.”
The fantastic four will be in cinemas from Friday 26 July.